In any romance, relationship or marriage there are two partners with their own experience, knowledge and beliefs. There are so many things you learn or tried in the past, arrived at your own conclusions, had you parents or friends give their opinion that you accepted.
So when the relationship starts and communication between the partners
begins, you two can find yourself not exactly agreeing on everything. So you might think about your relationship compatibility that it is not the optimum.
Perhaps. But maybe this subject, agreements, that is so thoroughly overlooked by couples when a relationship is started and hurts so much when not discussed over later is not that hard to understand and by applying what you understood, improve your compatibility as a couple and bring your love to a new level.
So what should you discuss and bring up between you. Let's see...
What do you agree upon? What do you think is right and what is wrong for a wife? For a husband? For a girl or boyfriend? Unless you agree together on things, you'll have some heavy thoughts about one another:
- "He never throws away his cigarettes"
- "She never washes the dishes"
- "I'm not supposed to listen to him right after I come back home"
- "I don't want to see his friends every Friday"
- "Why does she have to talk about her father all the time?"
- "No, I don't like dogs, can't he understand that?"
- "No way, we have cat in our house!"
All those little things that make grand noise in our minds and souls.
It can be solved! Just say your opinion, gently asking what the other one thinks about it. You don't have to agree right away, but talking is a right start. If you still care about one another, the person right beside you might very well try to get closer to what you like and the same from you.
If I'm wrong about your partner - two things: have you tried? If yes, and it did not succeed - maybe you were too assertive, like "You need to do exactly what I think is right, or else..." That leads to nowhere, trust me!
Make some common agreements on home arrangement, personal duties, cleaning house, going out together, seeing friends and many many other things. Just everything that you find not exactly the way you'd like it to be.
Talk it over gently. You would be surprised to how many solutions a loving couple can arrive and quickly.
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